Friends!!!

Few of the rare captured 'Friends' moments!!!

I wish all of them were captured....nonetheless

Celebrating Friendship with Friends!!!

kiddos us!

:) :D ;) :P times!!!

                                      

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Going UP and DOWN

Train journey is part and parcel of life of every mumbaikar...Commuting everyday to coll, work place et al has its own share of experiences and here are few of my own local train experiences on Harbour and Central line

• This was the week after the famous 26th July 2005 and i boarded a crowded 9.28am train. Obviously couldn't find a place to sit, the journey began and at every station the train started making contact with the platform, which obviously created friction.By the time train reached vashi, by then it had become really crowded and the continuous friction and added friction at vashi due to the curve...smelt fire. There was panic and the jam packed females in the compartment raised an alarm of fire...panic struck and more than half of the compartment became empty and the train started to leave after 15secs...i got a place to sit in the now empty train....thanks to the psuedo fire alarm!

• After boarding a jam packed train at Kurla...i realised there was some place to shift for the ladies in front towards the window...but some lady sitting in the direction opp. to that in which the train was travelling, was against it; reason..."mujhe suffocation hota hai...hawa nahi aati" then there was this part of me getting squeezed, explaining her the "air dynamics" that anyways the place she was sitting "waise bhi wahan pe hawa nahi aayegi"...fellow passengers appreciated my efforts with a smile, and there was at least comfortable place to stand!

• At times i spend my train journey reading stuff; its ok if its HP or Sidney Sheldon or a Jeffry Archer it doesn't call for attention of other co-travellers. But if its a Conn n Stumpf or a Friefilder or a Kuby(or any other bio related book) you invariably will be asked, "Are you a medical student?" "What are you studying?" then a small thought process goes on in the person's mind and then they formulate questions like, "Are the hybrids available safe?Do they cause side effects?" some times an intelligent question like is some ABC syndrome genetic or sex linked? makes its way...mostly the questions are related to genetics...sometimes make me feel i m genetic counsellor!
  

• I still remember, I met my JC frnd in train a medical student at KEM and we were so engrossed in discussing Immuno...actually had great discussions through out the journey, it was just us speaking and discussing in the morning 7am train...that to immuno...co-passengers seemed to hear Greek and Latin!

• Also there was this incident, yesterday...i actually was about to miss the 20.59 ka train from Kanjurmarg so got into general compartment...in Kurla when i got down a TC asked me for my ticket... i was cool as usual and opened my purse for ticket and you wont believe it was filled with tickets all sort of train tickets...and i was just not able to find my return ticket for the day...i remembered keeping it in the purse and now i just couldn't find it...started checking in the bag and then purse again...ticket checker was like madam office mein chalo...i was like nahi late ho raha hai mujhe wait i will find it out...by the time i think he was sure...this female is doing faltu ka natak! Tension was really creeping its way...i would have almost checked my purse 10times and still couldn't find it.And then suddenly out of nowhere, in the same purse i find my ticket...i mean what! I just showed the ticket to the TC and after so much of drama of me searching ticket and telling him i have got a return ticket...he was literally staring at the ticket very carefully checking minutest detail...and to make it fast cause i was getting late...i highlighted "return journey valid till midnight of 21-09-09"

• One of a kind experience was when, it was some 21 or 21.30 hrs on clock and my train was between kharghar and khandeshwar...i was alone in the ladies first class compartment enjoying the winds and the full moon when suddenly the lights went off...and this patch of the route is a small creek so till quite a distance you don't have civilization as such...it was mast pitch dark...it was just for few minutes but ultimate experience of pitch darkness in the train.

• Vashi bridge is another heavenly experience of train journey...in night its just beautiful in the evening its soothing, during the day its a aerial view of a huge swimming pool, in the morning its fresh and in the rainy season...its the Arabian sea at its best!Listening to Robaroo and chattin with vidhi on everything under the sun, i have had best of the times in my life here!

• Train is also the place where i completed my journals, made my last hour exam preparations,read books, made friends, thought of life, science, friends ...even took some right and wrong decisions...heard my worried parents on the phone during the blasts, heard few others shouting on phone, while some others loosing it too...

It's a mixed bag of experiences here...that I cherish in life!

Behavior

Behavior is a tricky thing…one's behavior thoroughly depends on: the time, the place where you are, the people with whom you are, your previous interactions with them, your state of mind, your what not…basically; sometimes it depend on all of these and sometimes just on one of them.
One’s behavior is adorned with various shades…and even a very brief interaction with a person gives us an insight into his/her behavior, basically you are in a position to imply or be conclusive about the person’s behavior.

But then why is it that we find or at least I (do) find it difficult to comment on rather be sure of my own behavior or how I behave in general with people.
Basically why is self analysis, so difficult???

Generally what we seem to do is start building our own frame, based on the views that others put forward about us or start looking towards ourselves from others shoes!
This I think is really difficult task…what makes it difficult is precisely our unwillingness to accept our short comings rather we are unable to take care of our own biases about ourselves.
More than that even if you know, about certain shades of your own behavior, its practically impossible to be quantitative.
But it was just yesterday that I came to know that I was addicted to the internet by 35%(after answering to a questionnaire on facebook) Many such questionnaires are available on the world wide web and they are quantitative too and by answering those many like you and me are doing the complex task of self-analysis or rather getting an insight into our own behaviors. At this point we might think that we do it just for fun and nothing like “self analysis” is even closely related to this, is it really???

Before even worrying about the scores assigned to each questions and how exactly the quantitation is done, I think there is a great flaw right in the beginning of the process.
That is, for any human surveillance that you carry out, it is necessary that the subject is unaware of your motives behind the survey.
And this condition is no way met during the exercise, cause you choose to answer the questionnaire, in the first place, because you are interested in particular behavior or character of yours. And it’s always that you have some pre-assumptions about yourself on those grounds and you successfully introduce a bias…! Also one’s you know the purpose of the whole process, from the options available you can easily predict the options that will give you scores at the two extremes and at the mean. The whole process along with its purpose fails, and I think it fails miserably!

In spite of this we enjoy taking the weirdest and stupidest of the quizzes on the www and waste our time, even when there are assignments, submissions and sometimes even exams!!!
So, which is the quiz you are taking up next???

relationships..interactions..generalizations..

quite recently have engaged myself in reading blogs...mostly posted by my friends!!! thought that should give it a try...though not sure will continue...????

i always thought of relationships as something unique..as in any relationship u talk of...the ppl involved, the duo or the trio involved are mutually exclusive... what i mean here is the image of the person u r in relationship with...is an exclusive set of characters that u define for yourself based on the experience and interaction with that person....u also tend to improve upon those characters or add on to the existing ones.... this is a dynamic process!!!

according to me ... or rather i enjoy keeping this interactions (with all those whom i have met till date) exclusive...!but what i observe today and it also does seem to happen is that, things like blog or scrapping on orkut or even if u take testimonials for that matter, make the whole thing quite generalized...

i mean i don't like judging a person or being conclusive enough on certain characters based on someone Else's views or experiences or interactions with that person...and watever u say but once u come across a certain feature abt a person frm someone else...there is bound to be a bias abt it...

...here i m writing this blog...this may seem to b a very complex or rather pretty faltu thought to some... i personally wont like to discuss this with althose whom i know are not intrested in such discussions...but still here i m generalizing !!!
n i hate doing that...